East meet West

wonder if i ever post about this... if yes mean im old d~ if not then i post it now haha..

few days ago chat with my friend, discuss about educating kids...oh ya, she is a school teacher..

I refuse to teach for a reason - i have no patient and im short temper..

ya, when student respect us, and obedient, we are proud... meaning to say we have some position in their heart... but way that i teach are typical Asian style - scold, punish and sometimes cane... frankly speaking, i feel guilty whenever i do so, 1st~! they are not my children... i actually have no right do so... 2nd~! for me it will actually give negative impact to the students... and not least... this practice will be continuously repeated from one generations to another...

whenever i read or see the western parents teach their kids, im IMPRESSED~! they never shout, or cane... they always keep calm (even when the kids turn into monster roaring ) and wait till their kids to calm down, and able to listen to them... what i notice is most of them will act explain, then discuss the matter... even the kids only 5 years old... sometimes, they even negotiate with their kids so that they will behave well in future...

there are once, a friend of mine, whose sister married to Canadian... so she bring her kids to visit their aunty there.. my friend told me, their house was so silent.. the kids are not like ours.. jump up and down and running all around... they actually sit down reading... even when play they play their toys gently... so when her kids so that, automatically they behave well as well.. for once, my friend said that she can actually feel 'peaceful' time with their family~and they can really communicate well with each other even the kids do wrong...

a saying 'why we shout? because there is distance'... shall we shout our kids? hmm... something to ponder~ ^^