East meet West

wonder if i ever post about this... if yes mean im old d~ if not then i post it now haha..

few days ago chat with my friend, discuss about educating kids...oh ya, she is a school teacher..

I refuse to teach for a reason - i have no patient and im short temper..

ya, when student respect us, and obedient, we are proud... meaning to say we have some position in their heart... but way that i teach are typical Asian style - scold, punish and sometimes cane... frankly speaking, i feel guilty whenever i do so, 1st~! they are not my children... i actually have no right do so... 2nd~! for me it will actually give negative impact to the students... and not least... this practice will be continuously repeated from one generations to another...

whenever i read or see the western parents teach their kids, im IMPRESSED~! they never shout, or cane... they always keep calm (even when the kids turn into monster roaring ) and wait till their kids to calm down, and able to listen to them... what i notice is most of them will act explain, then discuss the matter... even the kids only 5 years old... sometimes, they even negotiate with their kids so that they will behave well in future...

there are once, a friend of mine, whose sister married to Canadian... so she bring her kids to visit their aunty there.. my friend told me, their house was so silent.. the kids are not like ours.. jump up and down and running all around... they actually sit down reading... even when play they play their toys gently... so when her kids so that, automatically they behave well as well.. for once, my friend said that she can actually feel 'peaceful' time with their family~and they can really communicate well with each other even the kids do wrong...

a saying 'why we shout? because there is distance'... shall we shout our kids? hmm... something to ponder~ ^^

Korea

Return Kuching for about a month d~ now only then i post something bout my trip~ haha...

summary : i went to 3 places - Jeju island - Busan - Seoul

super enjoyable trip~ specially the nature scenery in Jeju Island and Busan~ and not least all those smart looking guys on the road~ muahahahaha (wiping saliva)

frankly speaking, if u were to ask me, below are my summaries...

i will say their skin actually just the same like ours... DRAMA LIES~!!!! the only thing make them look good is they always touch up their make up~! even guys~!!! an example is when we enter train to go busan, we- the malaysian, we take out our food and cameras... whereas for the Korean.. they will take our their face powder to touch up~ hahaha... but perhaps that's their practices...
 
as for the food... it is SUPERB~!!! that's also the reason why i gain weight when i return~ hehehehe...  when we enter any coffee shop, first thing they serve will be water~! haha... FOC sommore.. unlike malaysia, plain water also can cost RM0.50~! hmph~ but sad to say, i cant get normal coffee in their shop as well... sigh~ bit costly for the food, minimum 6000 won (RM18)... but for me it worth the price... come on.. one main dish with at least 3 sides dishes.. and the side dishes can refill one somemore.. hahaha

Scenery is something i enjoy most~! seriously~!!!! no pollution k~! even my nose Sxxx also not black... hahaha... but the sun is so strong yet the wind is super cold.. hahaha... end up.. i get sunburn~ sigh ...maybe is the season then i went to... instead getting fairer.. i end up get sun burn~ haha~ so dont expect be fair from Korea.. ^^

shopping~ oh yeah~ definitely is the cosmetics products.. super cheap.. hahahhaa.. actually is not which brand better... for me, it is which shop give more sample~ muahaha... some can actually give sample as if it was charity days... yet~ when i reach kuching.. after give a b c d... i only have 3 pieces for myself~ sad~ dint buy anything else... and the luggage already reach 40KG hahahah...

accommodation - im lucky enough to have a friend who can read and speak well korean (eventhough she learn it from drama, oh well~ she is smart)..so we able to enjoy great place to stay... and great place to visit... and etc...

so overall~ I MISS KOREA~ hahahaha... definitely will go again one day (after i settle my bill :( )
the overall expenses - RM10k (include meal, place to stay, air ticket)
 

Weather

weather change again... hazy by morning, afternoon super hot... then aroun 4pm~5pm suddenly thunderstorm and rain heavily~ that's why i always claim that weather must be women~ :D

recently im in this more as well... morning weak (specially before have my cup of coffee), afternoon energetic, then evening lazy mode... night... emo mode...

as usual the victim always him~ hahahaha... pity him as well... but if he know me well.. he know why i still cant move on and idiotly emo... frankly... emo really tired...

really wish that one day, i able walk out from this zone... smile and forget everything...

Housewife

long time ago... i have a teacher, tell me that her dream job is - become housewife~ that time i was like...erm... ok~

but think bout it... actually it is a dream job~ loving, and challenging~  eventhough the main 'boss' main 'customer' only one person - husband, and some might have children~

maybe when reach this age... i also wish i can just be housewife, or maybe with additional online business~  haha... for the sake of helping him to reduce finance burden ok~

sweet ma right? early morning, prepare breakfast for him~ help him prepare to work~ fill water for him... prepare towel etc... then if he don mind, im also willing prepare lunch box for him, or snack~... when he is in office~ then i can do my online business... or i can spend time design and cook nice meal while waiitng him to return~ once awhile can bake...

when he reach home, make fresh juice for him~ help him massage~ then dine together~ i know i do enjoy seeing my love one enjoy the meal i cook~ haha... but it was long time ago d~ sigh... ok ok.. last and not least, small chat~ and even better if can spend some sweet times together... watch movie, readings... sometimes, with the love one beside, even if not saying anything or do anything... just simply be by each other side~ it is just so nice~ ^^

la la la ~ will this dream come true? hahahahaha

Expectation

Today a colleague from KL nicely advise me 'Jasmine, when a guy court you, if two guys court u in same time... one drive BMW, another is driving Saga... for sure u will choose the one drive BMW... and you also will expect more instead less~ so... (biz matter d)'

actually i disagree lo~ even though his good intention in providing such example~ sigh~ material will change from time to times... if i choose him because BMW.. then? forever i will wish for material love provided from him lo~

sigh~ not sure if that's how KL couple select their partner~ for me.. even if he ride motorbike~ i wont mind~ because moment spent together is much more valuable~ but of coz.. i wont mind work hard together with him.. eat and spend wisely through this moment~ provided he is ambitious~ hahaha... i just cant accept guy that always stuck in comfort zone >.<

hmm... am i too naive to still emphasize 'moment together is more important that materialistic love'?

Security

When i was walking to take my car and meet cust.. i saw a bunch of people surround my car... i was like "shit... someone broke my car'... but when im there... lucky enough my car was fine~ but the lady beside me in opposite situation... she got rob~ according to her, when she enter her car, she put her bag on the passenger seat... then someone open her car from another side, and take  it away... she able to grab the bag, shout and bite the robber... but she was so weak to fight him... sigh~ lucky that nth happen to her...

suddenly feel that kuching no longer as innocent as before... feel so insecure~ day time on the road where there are a lot of ppl walking around... they still dare to do so... some colleague did mention.. all these robbers are well prepared... they wont surprise they are the same snatch thieves they snatch and rob people around there... and they only aim ladies...

sigh~ even though i can be tough and independent in most time... suddenly i felt so weak... and wish there is someone there to protect me... accompany me... sigh~ suddenly .... feel so weak~

Women arent Complicated

read a few article~ suddenly feel that women always accused for being complicated~ Actually we ARE NOT complicated~ we are just too kind, too generous and too loving till the point~ we look like we are complicated

lets explore~~

during childhood, we always play around and do or say whatever we like, then parents come in say  we must share and consider people feeling... ok lo~ so we start to spread our love to ourselves, families and friends...

when enter school, teachers come in... we must concentrate on study and think for future... ok lo~ we start study hard, plan well... then teacher add on... we must be friendly... OK~!! now we spread our time again spend with friends... then parents agian add on... we are lazy, not being helpful at home~ FINE~! add in house chore~

when we become teenagers, people around start to gossip that we dont know how to take care of our own, don dress properly, dont act like ladies... etc~ ok.. so we need learn and spend some time and money on ourselves again in order to be accepted by people around us...

when we start to work~ if we are pretty, lady colleague wont be happy, they will say have look no brain, if we are smart, male colleague wont be happy, they will say - so smart for what end up also become housewife... so since we were taught to be friendly etc... fine.... we become pretty infront guy, and smart with smart people (happy?) ...

then when we have boyfriend... things change again... he want you spend time with him, his family... in same time, as woman, we never will leave our own family~ ok lo~ this the climax part (so i write specifically in one column)

start - we spend time with BF, we spend time with own friends, we spend time with own family, we spend time with his family.... then we still need spend time with work~ colleagues...

more challenging~ we clean our own dish, cloths and do own work... then clean and do own house chore (impossible we want our old parents do all those again right?)... then we help his family clean his house... as we love him... we also will help him do ironing and arrange his closet~ then if he tired, we will cook and help him massage...

some gentlemen will be understanding and help share the house chore and appreciate their women~ and this i call as MAN~!!!

another type??  the BF end up break up.. why??? ops~! we forgot ourselves~ after spend all those times on others... we neglect ourselves~! worst part is the reason of breakup = because you no longer pretty and your shape off d??? and he forgot that we actually have no time and energy for ourselves because we spend too much times on others~!

oh well~ i salute women~ specially pretty and capable mothers~! ^^ oh well~ maybe all the women past life is Octopus~! that;s why we can multitask~ muahahahaha